Emotional Repression: The Root of Society’s Pain
For me personally i think this is at the very crutch of what is wrong with our society. I feel it is so important and vital yet it is overlooked in our society. What I am talking about is at the very root of many if not all of our problems in our world. Yes, I think it is that important. What I am talking about is the emotional imbalance in our society caused by our repressed emotions.
The Hidden Cost of Avoiding Our Emotional Trauma
These repressed emotions are at the root of many addictions and behavioural problems we see today that have reached a pandemic-like state everywhere. Everything I believe that causes diseases, addictions and things like obesity is rooted in our repressed emotions we have buried deep down in our subconscious. The stuff we would rather avoid we tend to stuff down and ignore. But the thing is you can never ignore emotional trauma. It will always come up to the surface to rear its ugly head in our lives. No amount of drugs or alcohol can suppress it for good. It must be dealt with head on and we must have a lot of courage to look at this pain or shadow side of ourselves. It is the only way we can be truly free, I believe. Here is a little secret, the masses are easily controlled by the emotional trauma we carry. Yes we can be easily manipulated by unbalanced dark sides. That is another reason why it is important to deal with this.
How Shadow Work Saved My Life
I have encountered this in my own life where I came to a point where I had to decide what to do about my own dark side. I was deteriorating quickly so I gathered the courage to look within for the answers I was seeking. And today I can say I believe I have found them although I am not what you could call perfect. But the amount of relief I have found through shadow work is priceless. Had i kept on going without facing my shadow I don’t believe I would be here today. It was unsustainable.
What Is Shadow Work?
So what exactly is shadow work, Well I believe shadow work is to face and validate all the repressed emotions within our subconsciousness. We must bring them up to the surface to be released from them for once and for all.
Why Shadow Work Is Especially Important for Men
This takes a lot of courage and is kind of counter trend at the moment especially for men. Why men? Well because a lot of men have been programmed to think that emotions and being emotional is a weakness. You know we have all heard things in the past growing up like “ Why are crying? Don’t you know that crying is for girls”. Things along those lines. So what do we do? We stuff it down in a dark place hopefully thinking that that will make it go away but it really doesn’t. Those wounds will fester and come up to the surface when we least expect it and this can cause a lot of pain and confusion if we are not aware of where it is coming from.
How to Begin Shadow Work: Start with Remembering
It can seem like an enormous task to start shadow work if we don’t know where to start. What I did to start is to start “remembering” and allowing myself to feel the pain I wanted to feel when I was initially hurt. Remembering or digging up the past is a good way to relieve ourselves from it. I don’t necessarily agree with the saying that “leave everything in the past and move on”. Sometimes we have to relive and allow ourselves to feel and validate those emotions that we buried so long ago.
Be Gentle with Yourself: Emotional Healing Takes Courage
Just remember when you were a kid and someone hurt you and you wanted to scream and cry back then but for whatever reason you didn’t. Maybe someone threatened you if you cried or whatever reason. Now is the time to finally allow yourself to feel that pain and express it. This is the root of many of our problems. We have to take this seriously in order to be free. If you do this this is a form of shadow work. You’re validating your pain for once. Be easy on yourself, it’s not easy to be carrying so much pain. Be your own comforter and say it’s ok to cry or express your anger from that pain that was inflicted on you. You were only a child for God sakes be easy on yourself.
Repressed Emotions Can Block Spiritual and Physical Growth
Repressing emotions like that will stunt your growth spirituality and even physically. I have seen this in my own life as a result. It blocks our growth so we stay stuck emotionally from it. Our maturity can take a hit from it also as a result. Like I touched on earlier, I believe all disease and mental health issues are a result of our repressed emotions. That’s the root of all our addictions and destructive behaviors.
Addressing the Inner Child and Possible Past Life Wounds
Our inner child has to be addressed and nurtured for once where our earthly parents may have failed us. There is another aspect of shadow work that I have never experienced myself but I think is very interesting also. It is the idea that people carry pain from past lives that carry into their present lives. I can’t speak for this personally but I have heard stories about people and this phenomenon. They say wounds and emotional pain can be transferred to this life we are currently in. Dolores Cannon speaks about this in her book I believe.
Trust Your Intuition on the Shadow Work Journey
Slowing things down can be beneficial for shadow work also. So meditation and deep reflection can help to bring to the surface any blockages that might be within our subconsciousness. I would tell you guy’s to trust your intuition when embarking on shadow work. Our higher selves are our greatest teachers and I can attest that everything I have learned in my own life is mostly from my intuition.
Facing Your Shadow Is the Path to Freedom
In closing, ignoring your shadow doesn’t make it disappear but it only drives it deeper into our subconscious where it quietly affects our thoughts and behaviors without us being really aware of it. This repressing can lead to addictions, self harm, chronic stress and emotional imbalance. From my own experience, shadow work has been a lifeline. It helped me face the emotional pain I buried for years, pain that was slowly breaking me down.
Only by confronting it—by feeling it, validating it, and releasing it—did I begin to heal and grow. Shadow work isn’t easy. It requires courage, patience, and self-compassion. But it is absolutely necessary if we want to become whole, free, and spiritually aligned. Society often tells us to “move on” or “stay strong,” especially as men, but healing doesn’t happen by denying pain—it happens by honoring it. Every repressed emotion is a piece of our story waiting to be acknowledged.
This is why I believe shadow work is not just important—it’s vital. It’s the missing link in a world overwhelmed by emotional disconnection. If we want real change—individually and collectively—we must start within. So slow down, tune in, and trust your inner wisdom. Your healing journey begins the moment you decide to stop running from your pain and instead turn toward it with love.
Leave a Reply